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Being a caregiver is not easy for anyone, but it can be devastating when the person you cared for passes away. Most people know how to give in to grief, but many Chesterfield, VA funeral home and cremations providers have realized that caregivers have a different kind of grief process. If you have lost a loved one you gave daily care to, you may be finding it very difficult to cope, so here are a few tips that can make it a bit easier.
Caregivers may not feel any grief at first. This can be confusing and frustrating, especially when you see other people really feeling the impact of the loss. Some people even start doubting the affection they had for the person they lost. It is vital that you know that very often caregivers are first in shock over the loss. Grief comes later, after the shock has worn off. The reason why the shock is so strong for a caregiver is that they are used to seeing the person for hours every day. It may seem almost impossible that the person is gone. Once this shock and disbelief wears off, you will be able to start grieving normally.
Another worry that caregivers have is that they may feel relief after the death of their loved one. They may feel guilt over this, too, which can complicate the grieving process. Relief is an appropriate response, especially after caring for someone who was very ill for a long time. It does not mean that you did not care for the person. On the contrary, relief shows that, despite having lost someone you loved, you are glad they are no longer suffering.
Not knowing how to cope with the amount of free time you have now that you do not have to be a caregiver can also be a concern. It is extremely common that caregivers going through grief will devote their time to helping other people deal with the loss instead of focusing on themselves. If you find yourself comforting people and not paying attention to your own emotions and wellbeing, getting through the grieving process will take much longer.
Be sure to get adequate amounts of sleep, even if you have to nap during the day, and to eat food that is nutritious. People tend to not eat or eat fast food because they do not have the energy to cook. Give your body the help it needs to get through these difficult times.
Grief can present itself as anger, relief, sadness, and many other emotions. Mood swings are common, and caregivers can feel as if they no longer have a purpose. Take the time to learn about the process of grieving. If you are not sure how to do this, speak with a funeral home and cremations provider in Chesterfield, VA to get some guidance. You can stop by Morrissett Funeral and Cremation Service at 6500 Iron Bridge Rd Richmond, VA 23234 or give them a call at (804) 275-7828.
